Back in The Days...

This is an actual 1955 Good Housekeeping article... thoughts? (Click on the picture to enlarge)

The Big Question

I know you all have been holding your breath for my next question.

Well you can breathe now, because, here it is:

"How long should a woman wait to have sex with a person she is dating if she wants it to last?"

Let's see what you all do with this.

Sick Love

The new question for the week (or until I post another one) is:

"When your significant other gets sick or hurt, how do you deal with it?"

And as a two parter:

"What do you expect or want from your significant other when you are sick or hurting?"

And…go.

Commitment...Oooh...Say it again!

I recently received a call from one of my female friends; we’ll call her "Sue". She was in tears and I could barely understand a word. Finally I am able to calm "Sue" down to find out what happened (her anguish almost assured me that someone had died). Her boyfriend had broken up with her. This is a girl who has searched for the "perfect" guy all of her life. Of course, we have tried to tell "Sue" that no one is perfect, especially not a MAN! (Take that Super E.) But alas, "Sue" had met this guy…we’ll call him "Exhibit D". Her and "Exhibit D" have been getting along marvelously. They both have kids and they each met the other one’s children. The kids got along, they were doing family stuff together…I mean…it appeared to be going great! He was even talking about future trips they could take together. But the inevitable happens and "Exhibit D" announces that things are moving way to fast and he doesn’t want such a big commitment so soon after his last relationship. Of course "Sue" is stunned. She was not the one who had been planning all of these future things that they could do together. So the question for "Exhibit D" is: What happened? And the question for all you men out there is:

"What is it about commitment that scares the hell out of you guys? And if you are so scared of it, why bring it up to us in the first place?"

(Is this more to your liking Super E?)

The Talk

My friend K, sent me a link to a Psychiatrist who pretty much summed this up. After various discussions with my friend about her daughter I sent her the same link. It pretty much confirms what most of you said as well as what I told my friend.

http://family.msn.com/tool/article.aspx?dept=raising&sdept=rks&name=sc_081304_birdsbees&GT1=6074

Q: "How soon is too soon to give kids the sex talk?"

A: "As soon as your child starts to show interest or curiosity in sex you need to make sure they know they can come to you for questions. You should always be honest with your children about the subject and not treat it as something they should be ashamed of. You also need to explain it in a way that they will understand. If your child is 3 or 4 you do not want to go into explicit detail, as this will just confuse the kid. Always use language the child will understand. The most important thing is to let your children know that the topic is always open. This way whenever they have questions they will feel more comfortable about coming to you instead of having to ask other kids who do not have your experience and may not have all the facts."

What are you looking for?

Today's question is more of an opinion based one. I thought it would be a good oppurtunity to see how everyone thinks. Here we go:

What characteristics do you find to be most important in a mate?

Sorry for the delay on a new question. Enjoy!

Men and Birthday's

Sorry it's been a few days since I last posted. This TX weather has been kicking my butt. Anyway, here's the next question.

This is loosely based on a "Malcolm in the Middle" episode I saw last night as well as on personal experiences. Let's see what you come up with.

"Why do men tend to forget things women deem important, such as; birthdays and anniversaries? And why do women get so angry when we know they are going to forget?"

Kind of a two parter but I figured that way we could get information from both men and women.

Enjoy.

Guy's Night

Great Answers everyone. Thanks for the input. My next question may be a little late today but I'll get it here as soon as I can. Here's my answer for this one.

Q: "Why do some women get so upset when we want to hang out with our guy friends?"

A: I have to say that I wish my boyfriend would go out with the guys more. I feel guilty leaving him all the time to hang out with my friends because he never goes anywhere. He's kind of a hermit that way.

But I do know girls that do mind when their guys go out with their buddies. While you should be entitled to your own time to bond with your male friends, make sure that you are also giving her the majority of your time. Women like to feel loved and special and if you are constantly going out with your guy friends she's going to think that you don't want to spend any time with her. Women are very sensitive, but if you and her go out and do things together most of the time, she is going to be more open to when you want to hang out with your buds.

As a side note, there are also girls who are totally against their guys going to strip clubs. Again, though if you make your woman feel like she is the prettiest and best girl ever, she will feel a lot better about herself and probably won't mind as much if you go. A little tip though guys, if you do go, we don't want to hear about it. We are glad you had a good time... but we don't want to hear about what the strippers looked like or how big their boobs were. Would you really like us to tell you about how the male strippers dangled their goods in our faces? I'm just saying...

Enjoy.

Friends or More?

So...Apparently we have some guys who are afraid to answer this one. I guess it's one of the questions guys want to keep a secret so they can leave women in misery! Hehe. I have to say that this one was hard for me too, due mainly to the fact that I am not a guy...But I put my answer below.

Q: "I'm interested in this guy who I've been friends with for awhile. I think that he feels something for me as well but I am not sure. How do you know if a guy is really interested in you or is just being nice?"

A: Have I mentioned that men are weird? No but seriously, men do not show their emotions as well as women, as we have already discussed. If they show you any attention at all though, I would take that as a good sign. Flirting is also a big key. I would just hang in there until he gets the courage to ask you out. Of course if this never happens you can still him as a friend and move on with your life.

Women and Phones

Thanks guys. You all came up with some really good points. My answer is listed below.

Q: "Why is it that women I give my number to, never call?"

A: Most women I know don't like to be too aggressive in their pursuits of men. They are afraid if they come on too strong that the man will freak out and run away. If you are interested in a girl and you think she is interested in you as well, ask for her phone number and CALL her. But, don't just leave it at that. When you get her number try to set a first date then and there. Ask her if she wants to go see a movie, go to a comedy club, or whatever with you next weekend. If she is busy then, let her come up with a day that is more convenient. If she doesn't want to commit to any date then and there, she is probably not very interested and she is just giving you her number to get rid of you.

Also, a little advice fellows, NEVER make the first date a dinner date unless you have already known the girl for awhile. There is too much pressure on what to say while you wait for the food and what not. It's uncomfortable for both of you and it will do nothing to soothe your already anxious nerves. I have to say that the best first date I have ever been on was at Dave and Busters. We could grab some food and drinks and play videa games and we could chat while we were doing these things without feeling we were forced to make small talk.

Men and Feelings

Thank you everyone for your suggestions.

Nice SuperElvis...hehe.

Here's what I said.

Q: Why is it that when you try to talk to most men about your feelings they tend to ignore you or try to change the subject?

My Answer: Men are normally brought up believing that they must always be strong in every situation. They must never show weakness. In fact most men are taught by their fathers, grandfathers, uncles, brothers etc... that it is weak to show any emotion other then anger. So when you try to talk to them about your "feelings" it is their instinct to shut out what you are saying. That is not to say that they don't feel emotion, obviously, they do. However, you will be hard pressed to get them to talk about things that hurt them emotionally. The best thing to do is just be patient. The longer your relationship lasts, the more comfortable they will grow with you (hopefully). Eventually you might be able to get him to open up a little. It will take some time though and they will need to be the ones to bring it up. Pressing them will only make them shut you out more. If you know something is truly bothering him and he hasn't mentioned it to you, then just calmly inform him that if he wants to talk about it, you are there for him. Just be sure that if he does try to talk to you that you listen, I mean really listen, and don't interrupt and start sprouting off advice on how to fix things.

As far as talking about what is bothering you, if you are unable to do this with him and are finding that he doesn't respond the way you want...find a good friend that you will be comfortable talking to. Or if it's really serious and you don't have anyone you feel you can trust to talk to, you should seek someone who gets paid to listen to your problems and try bouncing them off of them.